
The Night of the Soul Around 50
Like so many women, I went through what felt like a “dark night of the soul” as I approached 50. At the time, I thought it was just me. Life had been throwing challenges at me – my mum’s devastating stroke when I was 43, years of care and heartbreak, and then her passing. I was so focused on her needs that I missed the early signs of perimenopause creeping in.
When she finally passed, there was an initial sense of relief after watching her suffer so long. But real grief arrived six months later, and with it came something I couldn’t name back then: the slow, heavy loss of joy.
Perimenopause and a Life Turned Upside Down
I didn’t know then that perimenopause can strip away joy, clarity and even identity. What I did know was that my life felt broken. I ended a 25-year relationship. Everything I thought I knew about myself was questioned. It was painful – but it was also the beginning of my awakening.
That moment forced me to look at my life with fresh eyes. Slowly, I rebuilt – this time with intention.
Choosing Freedom, Fun, and Purpose
I pivoted everything. I created a business that lets me design my life: meaningful relationships, more time, less stress, more fun and gratitude, Human Design, coaching, freedom, and ease.
It wasn’t an easy path. I doubted myself constantly, and I often wished there had been someone to show me the way. That’s why I do what I do now: to help other GenX women through their own transformations – whether in life, business, or both.
If you’re asking yourself “what’s next?” or feel like burning it all down, know this: you’re not alone. There are ways through – and you don’t have to do it on your own. Reach out, whether for free resources or deeper coaching, and let’s walk this path together.
Much love,
Sharonah x