Perimenopause has a reputation for being the beginning of the end. Hot flushes, sleepless nights, mood swings, weight changes… the list goes on. But behind the physical symptoms, there’s a deeper story unfolding – one that is far more radical and far more powerful than we’re usually told.

Perimenopause can be the moment you stop living a life of compromise and start living a life that is deeply, unapologetically true to you. And tools like Human Design and the Gene Keys can offer a beautifully precise map for that journey home.

Perimenopause as a homecoming

Entering perimenopause is a bit like coming home one day and suddenly realising you don’t actually like your flat.

You’ve been living there for years. You know where everything is. You’ve made it work. But when you really look around, you see furniture you never chose, colours that don’t reflect you, clutter that belongs to other people’s expectations.

Nothing is truly terrible. It’s all “fine”.
But you don’t love it.

That’s what perimenopause does to your life.
It takes the dimmer switch off and the lights come up.

You start to notice where you are just going through the motions – in your work, your relationships, your schedule, your habits. You feel a growing discomfort with saying yes when your whole body is a no. You realise how long you’ve been overriding your needs in order to be the good girl, the reliable one, the one who holds it all together.

This isn’t you “losing it”. It’s you waking up.
It’s your system saying: I can’t live on autopilot anymore.

Where have you compromised yourself?

Most of us arrive in midlife carrying layers of compromise.
We shape-shifted to fit in.
We said yes to careers that made sense on paper but drained us in practice.
We adapted to partners, family dynamics and cultural stories that told us to be grateful for “enough” and not ask for more.

Perimenopause is the moment that compromise becomes unbearable.

Questions bubble up:

• Where have I fallen out of integrity with myself?

• Where have I been living a second-best life because I didn’t believe the best life was possible?

• Where do I keep abandoning my needs, my truth, my joy?

These are not comfortable questions. They can shake every part of your identity. But they are also the doorway into a life that feels honest and alive.

This is where Human Design and the Gene Keys become powerful allies. They don’t tell you who to be – they mirror back who you’ve always been beneath the conditioning.

Human Design helps you understand how your energy works:
how you’re designed to make decisions, create, rest, and interact with others.

The Gene Keys invite you into a softer, more contemplative journey – exploring the patterns you carry, the survival strategies you’ve used, and the gifts that want to emerge when you stop living from fear and start living from trust.

Together, they help you see exactly where you’ve been compromising yourself – and what alignment could actually look like.

Designing a life you can fall in love with

Once you see the compromises, you’re faced with a choice.

You can try to squeeze yourself back into the old life and push through.
Or you can start to gently redesign your world so it honours who you are now.

Designing a life you love doesn’t mean quitting everything overnight or burning your life down. It looks more like a series of brave, honest micro-adjustments:

• Allowing yourself to rest when your body says rest – instead of forcing productivity

• Creating space in your day for what genuinely lights you up, even if it’s just 10 minutes at first

• Saying no to what drains you, even when it makes you feel guilty at the start

• Making work and relationship choices that honour your energy and your values

Your Human Design and Gene Keys can guide these shifts in a deeply personal way.

You might discover you’re designed to work in bursts, not in a constant grind. You might see that you’re here to use your gifts in more creative or spiritual ways than you’d previously allowed yourself to dream of. You might realise that the “prosperous” life for you is less about hustling for more, and more about pouring your energy into what feels meaningful and joyful.

In order to live a life of genius, you have to get back in touch with what brings you joy – and then unapologetically orient your life around that.

Perimenopause will push you in that direction anyway. Your body is no longer willing to carry the weight of an inauthentic life. If you allow it, this season can be a profound reset: a chance to come back into integrity, to honour your inner truth, and to build a future you’re excited to inhabit.

Join me: Out with the Old, In with the True

If this lands in your body as a big “yes”, I created my masterclass “Out with the Old, In with the True” exactly for you.

In this class, we’ll explore:

• How to reframe perimenopause as a powerful initiation, not a decline

• The key places women most often compromise their energy – and how to come back into integrity

• How Human Design and the Gene Keys can help you understand your unique blueprint in this stage of life

• Practical steps to start redesigning your days so you can actually love the life you’re living

You are allowed to want more.
You are allowed to honour your body’s wisdom.
You are allowed to build a life that feels true, rich and deeply yours.

Perimenopause can be the moment everything falls apart –
or the moment everything finally falls into place.

Click the work with me link below.

Much love

Sharonah x