I want to start with something simple: if you’re in perimenopause and you’re building a business, you’re not imagining it. Things can feel different. Your energy can be less predictable, your focus can come and go, and your tolerance for “pushing through” might be disappearing.

In a way, that’s not a problem. It’s information. It’s your body asking for a new approach.

That’s why I love the phrase, how you do one thing is how you do everything. Not because it’s another thing to get right, but because it points you back to what actually changes a life. Not big dramatic moments, but the way you meet the small ones.

Why the tiny things matter more than you think

I notice it immediately when my environment feels supportive. If my desk is cluttered, my thoughts feel cluttered. If I’ve rushed into my day, I’m more likely to make decisions from stress. If I slow down, even slightly, I’m more myself.

And it’s not just mindset. It’s your nervous system. If your body feels like it’s in a constant state of urgency, of course your inner critic gets louder. Of course self-doubt shows up. Of course it’s harder to trust your ideas and stay consistent.

Tiny details are your way of saying, I’m not abandoning myself today. They’re small signals that create steadiness, and steadiness is where your best work lives.

The truth about self-doubt and expensive “fixes”

Here’s the bit I say with so much love, because I’ve been there: you can’t buy your way into self-trust.

You can invest in support, and that can be transformational. But nobody can step inside your body and do the believing for you. Nobody can take the wheel of your life and make you confident. That part has to be built through your own relationship with yourself.

The simplest way I know to do that is to start tiny. Not because you’re aiming low, but because tiny is doable. Tiny is sustainable. Tiny is how you create proof. Each small choice you follow through on becomes evidence that you are someone who shows up for yourself.

When you have enough evidence, the doubt doesn’t necessarily vanish, but it stops being in charge.

The compound effect of presence

This is where things get exciting, because it’s so much more practical than it sounds.

When you slow down your morning, you change the tone of your day. When you take a moment before work to arrive in your body, you make clearer decisions. When you savour your first coffee instead of rushing it, you practise not abandoning yourself. When you celebrate the smallest win, you expand your comfort zone without your system going into threat.

Over time, those moments stack. They become your new normal. And then you look up and realise you’re more consistent, more confident, and more grounded in your vision, not because you forced it, but because you built it.

That’s the heart of my signature programme, The Pivot. It’s for women who are done performing, done pressuring themselves, and ready to create change through insight and presence, one baby step at a time. If that’s you, you’ll feel it when you read the details.

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Much love

Sharonah x